It’s so hard for teens to get married (currently engaged) – in Sydney, low paid jobs cos of my age and roof rocketing prices on renting granny flats and apartments… help!
Salams Mariam,
As someone who got married very young , I can relate to the challenges you mention. There are a few solutions that I have heard being practiced for young people in this situation who want to get married. If you’re fortunate to have a supportive family, one possibility could be to live with his or your family. Not all in-laws are safe to hang around though, so if you’re not as fortunate then you might consider living in one bedroom apartments or check out local community housing. I know that you can get assistance paying your bond (called Rent Start)
The rest isn’t so hard, live modestly, go over and have meals on the weekend with family… etc.
The most important part is making sure that you’re getting married to someone who you can be indoors with for extended periods of time. Another way of saying this that it is someone who you can be companions with. It’s not the same if you’re getting married at an older age. This is someone you’re going to grow with and you need to make sure he wants to be the same couple you want to be when you grow up.
Finally to borrow advice from our development department, there is a really good course that I recommend everyone take before getting married. The Successful Islamic Marriage, check it out.
Wa asalam.
Mohammad Kandil
Mabruk, Great initiative!!! I always interested to know about personal development, how Muslims can be successful in their life and improve in their lifestyles rather than taking things for granted, you know taking one day at a time, short term goal, with so much knowledge which is so easily accessible over the internet or through courses and classes etc. What stop people from committing to daawah etc, what are their priorities in life,what are their aims/goals in life.How can we make people interested to join/volunteer in a organisation who can help other people in need etc. Erm just thought
Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Dear CM786,
Thanks for writing in! You’ve raised some very important points. I strongly believe that for Muslims to be successful, they need education, education, education. A solid grounding in the fundamentals of their deen can be life-changing.
Once you begin learning sacred knowledge, you’ll see how little you know, and (hopefully!) be inspired to learn more. I recommend taking online classes with Qibla (formerly known as SunniPath) or on-the-ground classes with Daar Aisha and Al-Ghazzali centre.
From a lifestyle perspective for sisters, I recommend signing up for SisterShineLife Coaching. Coach Tamara will help you make the most of each slice of your life (spiritual, social, family, health, wealth etc.).
Not everybody will be interested in volunteering in organisations. Allah gives different people different strengths and weaknesses. I think what matters is using the gifts that you do have, to benefit yourself, your family, and those around you. Some people prefer to work behind the scenes, while others are amazing public speakers. So long as we do our best with the abilities that we do have, inshaAllah, Allah will give us success in our chosen field.
Wassalam,
Raidah
