By: Haqqseeker
Source: MuslimVillage
The teenage years are the period in the life of a person that could be called the bridge between childhood and adulthood or maturity. Just like a flower bud blossoms into a colourful flower, in the same manner a child transforms into a teenager over a period of time.
We all know the real beauty of a flower is not in its shape or colour but in the fragrance that it gives out. In the same way the real beauty of a teenager is not in his complexion or in his physical appearance but in the Akhlāq (practice of virtue, morality and manners) that he displays in his character. This quality of Akhlāq is the direct result of the correct tarbiyat (upbringing) by the parents.
The golden pages of Islāmic history are full of examples where Muslim teenagers have displayed in their behaviour, their lifestyle and their deeds; the core values of Islām that include the absolute love for our Creator Allāh Subhānahu wa Ta’ālā and His Beloved Nabi Muhammad Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa Sallam, a very strong and unassailable Imān, true love for the fellow Muslims, a longing to strive in the path of Allāh, a zeal to travel far and wide in the pursuit of knowledge or to spread the Deen of Allāh etc.
Given below are a few examples of the Muslim teens who have exhibited these superior attributes in their characters for which they could be regarded as outstandingly ‘Fragrant Flowers of Islam’. These are just brief outlines. A full research may reveal their detailed narrations.
- Nabi Ismā’eel (‘AlayhisSalām) was the son of Nabi Ibraheem (‘AlayhisSalām). When Nabi Ibraheem (‘AlayhisSalām) was asked by Allāh Subhānahu wa Ta’ālā to sacrifice his son Ismā’eel (‘AlayhisSalām), he asked his son about his opinion. In Qur’ān Majeed Allāh Ta’ālā describes the conversation between the two as follows:
When the child (Ismā’eel ‘AlayhisSalām) reached the age where he could run about, he (Ibraheem ‘AlayhisSalām) said to him, “O my beloved son! Verily, I have seen in a dream that I am slaughtering you. So consider your opinion.” He replied, “O my beloved father! Do as you have been commanded. If Allaah wills, you will soon find me to be among the patient ones.” (Surāh 37 āyat 102. Ref: Quraan Made Easy – Mufti Afzal Hoosen Elias)
Just look at the gravity of the question the father asked and the sublimity of the answer the boy gave at such a tender age! It was the result of the most noble upbringing of the son that made him ready to be slaughtered by his own beloved father for the sake of Allāh Subhānahu wa Ta’ālā.
- Hadhrat Ali (Radhiallāhu ‘anhu), the last of the Khulafā-e-Rāshidin, was only nine when he embraced Islam. He was the first one among the youth to accept Islam. He is one of the Asharah Mubasharah (the ten people to whom Nabi Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam gave glad tidings that they will be the dwellers of Jannāh).
- ‘Aisha (Radhiallāhu ‘Anha) was only 18 at the time of Rasulullāh Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam’s demise. Notwithstanding her age, she is responsible for innumerable Āhadith and regulations of Islāmic practices.
- Hassan and Hussain (Radhiallāhu ‘anhuma): Grandsons of Rasulullāh Sallāllahu ‘alaihi wasallam. He said, “Hasan and Hussain are leaders of the youths in Paradise.” (Tirmidhi, Ahmad, Tabrani Fil Kabeer, Tabrani Fil Ausat). The meaning of this Hadith is that those people (Mu’meens) who have passed away at a young age will be amongst the youths of Ahlul Jannāh (people of Paradise). Hazrat Hasan and Hussain (Radhiallāhu Ta’ālā Anhuma) will be the leaders of these youths in Jannāh. (ref: Muftisays.com)
- Mus’āb ibn ‘Umair (Radhiallāhu ‘anhu), who was appointed the first envoy of Islām and was sent to Yathrib (Madināh) to prepare the city for the forthcoming Hijrā, embraced Islām when he was a teenager. He was brought up as a highly pampered son of rich parents but at the time of his burial after his shahādāh (martyrdom) he did not have enough clothes to cover his body.
- Mu’ādh ibn ‘Amr ibn al-Jamūḥ (Radhiallāhu ‘anhu), 13 years old, and Mu‘awwidh ibn Afrā’ (Radhiallāhu ‘anhu), 14 years old, fatally wounded Abu Jahl, the leader of the polytheists in the battle of Badr.
- Zayed bin Thābit (Radhiallāhu ‘anhu), 13 years old: He memorized the Qur’ān and contributed in compiling it. He was also the personal scribe of Nabi Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam. Nabi Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam asked him to learn the language of the Jews, which he did in just 15 days. Later, when he started sending letters to the various rulers, Rasool Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wasallam asked him to learn Syriac (the language of ancient Syria). Thus he would write his letters and also read out their replies to him.
- Al Arqām bin abi al Arqām (Radhiallāhu ‘anhu), 17 years old: In the fifth year after Nabi Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa Sallam’s Nubuwat (Prophethood), Al-Arqam’s house was selected as a safe place to meet, pray and learn about the faith because it was located on the east of As-Safa Hill where Rasulullāh Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa Sallam was residing. It became known as the House of Islām and can be regarded as the first Islāmic School, with Rasulullāh Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa Sallam as the teacher and the Sahābā as its students.
- Hadhrat ‘Umar Radhiāllahu ‘anhu’s daughter-in-law (a milk-maid whose name is not known). In the course of his Khilāfat, during one of his frequent disguised journeys to survey the condition of his people, ‘Umar overheard a milkmaid refusing to obey her mother’s order to sell adulterated milk (order apparently given to test the young girl’s piety), for the reasons that Hadhrat ‘Umar had strictly instructed his subjects not to add water to the milk. The mother reportedly told her daughter that Khalifāh ‘Umar was not looking at them at that time. The girl shot back that though the Khalifāh was not looking at them, Allāh is always watching over everyone. ‘Umar was so impressed that he got his son Aasim married to this girl. From this union was born a girl named Laylā (or umm Aasim Laylā) that would in due course become the mother of ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd Al-‘Aziz, a great ruler affectionately referred to as the ‘fifth and the last rightly guided Khalifāh of Islām.’
- Imām Muhammad Ash-Shāfi’i (Rahmatullāhi ‘alayh): Born in 767 AD in Gaza City, Palestine. As a young man he was trained in Arabic grammar, literature and history. Due to his family’s financial constraints, his mother could not afford proper writing material for young Shafi’i. He was thus forced to take notes in his classes on old animal bones. Despite this, he managed to memorise the Qur’ān at the age of seven. Later he became one of the four Imāms of Fiqh (Islāmic jurisprudence).
- Sheikh Abdul Qādir Jilāni (Rahmatullāhi ‘alayh): In his childhood, his saintly mother had always counseled him to remain truthful, whatever might happen, and like a dutiful son he made his mother’s advice his watchword for life and acted upon it. He was hardly in his teens when once while he was going on a journey, his mother gave him a few gold pieces. The caravan was overtaken by robbers. When they asked him about what valuables he had with him, he showed them the gold pieces. The robbers were taken aback and asked him why he did not try to hide his money. He replied, “I hold the noble advice of my mother dearer than these few pieces of gold.” The robbers were so moved by the noble spirit shown in this answer that they gave back all the property they had taken from him. He left his home at the age of eighteen in the pursuit of Deeni knowledge and he went to Baghdad, the great centre of learning. Later he became a renowned Sufi Sheikh.
- Abd-ar-Rahmān III, also known as al-Nasir li-DinAllāh (‘the Defender of Allāh’s Deen’) was the most powerful Amir and Khalifā of Córdoba. He ascended the throne in his early 20s. People of all creeds enjoyed tolerance and freedom of religion under his rule.
Today the situation is totally different. Leave aside the breathtaking qualities that the past teenagers displayed in their characters, today’s teens are way off the mark even in displaying the characteristics of normal teenagers. The main culprits responsible for such behaviour of our teens are obviously the television, the smart phones and other internet based gadgets. The preoccupation with these gadgets has become an obsession that is taking them away from the Mubārak Deen of Allāh Subhānāhu wa Ta’ālā, from their studies and even from their own families.
One study has revealed that approximately 90 percent of all young people are online today. Teenagers are visiting the web sites of their favourite TV shows, singers, movies, video games, and also interacting with other teens and even with grown up adults, mahram as well as ghair-mahram, on the social medias. Some of them have even developed an addiction to the porn stuff. When teens spend numerous hours per day using the Internet, they significantly reduce the time they spend in remembrance of Allāh and in being with the family.
Even the western writers and professors have become conscious about the perils of the media and technology. According to Larry D. Rosen, PhD, professor of psychology at California State University:
Daily overuse of media and technology has a negative effect on the health of all children, preteens and teenagers by making them more prone to anxiety, depression, and other psychological disorders, as well as by making them more susceptible to future health problems.
Let us make sincere du’ā to Allāh Subhānāhu wa Ta’ālā to bring the real fragrance in the characters of our teens…Ameen.
And Allāh Ta’ālā Knows Best.