Source: Jamiatul Ulama
To be a productive, dynamic Muslim, it is extremely important that we inculcate a mindset of positivity. A mindset of positivity leads to a productivity and eventually leads to creating a productive life. If the mindset of positivity is missing, and we are negative and self loathing, and have no hope, do you ever think we would have the enthusiasm to do things and be productive?
I decided to write on negative self-talk, since many people complain that they have started being organized etc, only to fail in following through. And some people say that they start off with being so productive, only to get down and out again. The root of this problem is negative self talk.
If you’re like most people, you engage in negative self talk quiet a bit. In fact, it happens a whole lot more than you realize. Negative talk puts limitations on your life, it drains your energy, and instead of wanting to feel productive, you give up feeling despondent.
One of the greatest secrets to being a productive person is letting go of your negative self-talk, and switching to positivity. Behind that door of negativity, there is a brighter, happier, productive life waiting for you.
Where does the negative thinking come from?
First and foremost, negative talk comes from shaytaan. He is your enemy, though you may not believe it – shaytaan makes you procrastinate and detours you from your mission. He stalls you, puts you off from your mission, and makes you find reasons for why you can’t do a certain task and finds every way to sabotage you.
Secondly, being in judging mode all the time is where negative talks stem from. We are always judging ourselves, others, those we know personally and those we don’t. We judge everyone, and in turn continuously judge and criticise ourselves (e.g., ‘I’m not good enough, I’ll never succeed, I hate my life’).
It eventually becomes an unconscious habit…that we dont realize we are doing.
Enough is enough
There are wonderful things you want to do with your life, but the negativeness in your mind is deeply rooted in to you and holding you back. The good news is you have the power to switch to a positive mindset! And it is possible and not so difficult!
1) Make Du’aa
Ask Allaah to protect you from shaytaan. The Prophet [pbuh] frequently made the following supplication:
The Prophet [p] used to say:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ.
“O Allaah! I seek refuge with You from worry and grief, from incapacity and laziness, from cowardice and miserliness, from being heavily in debt and from being overpowered by (other) men.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree)
2) Have a soft compassionate approach.
We need to develop and cultivate a mindset of compassion, which encourages us and motivates us to do more. Have compassion on ourselves instead of continuously criticising and harshly judging ourselves and others. Take note that I am not suggesting a mindset that allows us to be too easy on ourselves and allows us to slack. That is far from my message and that is from shaytaan. I am suggesting a mindset of compassion, where if we fail, we pick ourselves up, and try again. A mindset where we honestly scan our lives, see our faults and make commitments to improve and follow through with improving even when we stumble and make mistakes. A mindset where we talk positively to ourselves and strive to be better. We should never let our negativeness, or anybody else’s negativeness stop our worthy purpose and affect our lives. Having this compassion, and hope, sets the wheels in motion to a productive life.
A small child who becomes frustrated while trying to learn, is encouraged with kind words, encouragement and compassion. Critically judging and picking on the child, would stifle his ability to learn, yet by being compassionate and encouraging, he blossoms and becomes more enthusiastic and productive. This is the type of gentleness and compassion you should exercise on yourself and others. Give yourself the highest praise for the smallest bit of progress you have made.
As you integrate this new habit in your life, you will see amazing changes that happen. The less you judge others, the less you will judge yourself.
You need to stop being negative and fuel your life with a compassionate persistance. You need to give up negative self talk today, right now. Get off that coach, pick yourself up, your life is waiting. Have hope in Allaah, have hope in yourself and switch to a positive, proactive mindset. Then Allaah will empower you to reach your goals and help you create for yourself a productive dynamic life.
Remember life is a blank canvas, you have the choice to paint it with beautiful, bright colors; or dead,dull colors. Whatever it is my dear brother/sister, you have the choice!