The aim and objective to read this essay is to practice what you learn and follow the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) and not to become angry.
It is really common that a comment or criticism or someone behaving badly makes someone angry. Becoming angry immediately is natural but becoming angry is such a way that it goes beyond its limits is certainly blameworthy. This includes doing all the things that anger demands a person to do.
Each and everyone of us should know from which spiritual malady we suffer from and try our utmost best to get rid of our spiritual maladies.
From these spiritual maladies, there is one malady which is anger. This is when a person goes beyond their limits, and it is this very anger that causes great harm to a person in the World and surely in the Hereafter.
There are many people that suffer great hardships and sorrow throughout their lives because they carried out all the things that their anger demanded them to do. A common example is when the husband divorces his wife in the state of anger without even thinking what he is doing and in the end the consequence and result is only regret and hardships in this world and in the hereafter.
WHAT IS ANGER?
Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils but sometimes its result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities. It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus he becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense.
Anger is a temptation of shaytaan and deception of shaytaan
Anger is the root of all evils.
Anger is a spark of fire that are always bursting.
Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH)
The meaning of anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion excited by a sense of wrong , physical pain, inflammation, mad, hot tempered, choleric, inflamed, A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury.
Anger is the strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure.
Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure and hostility.
ANGER AND WRATH
When someone is angry, mad, and reaches a state of having wrath against any person, he should make a special Du’a. In doing so he will cool down . It is reported that the Messenger of Allah said (narrated by Sulaiman Ibn Sard and reported by Bukhari and Muslim ) that while Sulaiman was with the Prophet (Allah bless him with peace), two persons were blaming each other. The face of one became red and his jugular veins swelled. the Prophet (Allah bless him with peace) said. I know a statement if he or she say’s it then the person with anger will cool down.
The person with anger should say : “I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM SATAN THE OUTCAST.”
IS ANGER LAWFUL OR NOT ?
Anger is lawful in cases of religious affair’s when its honours are at stake. It is an effective preventive measure to safeguard the dignity of man. A person who has no anger is called a coward because he has got no true faith in Allah. The person fears the creation and not the creator. This doesn’t give the right for youngsters to become angry with parents when they don’t get what they want.
If a person doesn’t practice Islam, a person disobeys the command of Allah or a person doesn’t listen to his parents then to become angry with such a person can be lawful. But the person shouldn’t become too angry because in Islam extreme anger is unlawful because it creates opposition and bitterness.
It is undesirable for a pious man to lose his temper, due to jokes, frivolous talks, quarrels, criticism and greed for wealth.
The real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath. i.e. Anger.
It is reported in a Hadith on the authority of Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) that the messenger of Allah Mohammed (Allah bless him with peace) Peace and blessing of Allah be upon him said :
“The man is not a good wrestler; the strong man is in fact the person who controls himself at the time of anger.”
The above Hadith is stated in Bukhari.
Anger is unlawful because it destroys the faith of a man. Bah bin hakim (Allah be please with him) Reported that the messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) . Said: Verily anger spoil’s faith just as aloes spoils honey .
It is stated in Bukhari.:
” A person should be cautious from being angry.”
It has been narrated by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) That Allah’s Messenger Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) Said:
“ The strong is not the one who over comes the people by his strength”
“But the strong is the one who controls him while in anger.”
In another narration by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him man said to the Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) Advise me.
The Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace). Said:
” Do not become angry “
The man asked the same question again and again and the Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) Replied by in case by saying:
“Do not become angry and furious”
By looking from the advise given by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) we shouldn’t become anger and furious. If we remember the advise and saying of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace)then the person becoming angry will control his anger.
But the youngsters of today have forgotten the teaching of our Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) there become angry and furious for small reason like if their parent tell them to do something which their donut like there say to the parent in anger that I donut what to do it like cleaning the house or the toilet. So the best person is one who controls him self in anger.
Hadrat Anas: (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the messenger of Allah Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) said:
Who so takes up his tongue as treasure Allah will keep his secrets concealed and who so restrains his anger Allah will with hold his punishment on the resurrection day and who so ascribes excuse to Allah will accept his excuse.
So by reading this we should refrain from becoming anger. Because anger destroys one faith. The person in anger forgets where he is and says anything which he regrets after.
Today people are becoming angry because of the lifestyle and the society we live in. When a person is under stress he or she tends to become angry because the jobs not done or their children donut listen to them. There become angry and the anger is taken out on the child.
When a person becomes angry to their parent then that mean he’s angry with Allah Paradise lies between your parents. If you treat them and help them then Allah will reward you in this world and the hereafter. But if you displeased your parent this means you are displeasing Allah then the person will be deprived from Allah’s mercy and the person will get punish in the hereafter.
The aim and objective of reading this is to practice what has been written and refine from becoming angry. To become angry for Islamic reason is permissible but it shouldn’t cause anyone harm.
Women should control their anger. because anger effects everyone. So anger is lawful for islamic reason and if ones hourner is at risk’s. Other then this Anger is not permissible.
AT THE TIME OF ANGER
As humans beings, we have our emotions. We react in either positive or negative emotions. Sometimes we may lose our logic and we cannot control our emotions. Hence, we behave in a strange way.
For those who lose control of their emotions and react negatively they have to be advised in advance what to do in such a situation. Our beloved Prophet (Allah bless him with peace) gave us a prescription that makes us control our negative behavior. By using it, we will not show our anger and madness. Our blood pressure will stay normal. All what it takes is that a person has to read the following statement at the time of anger and wrath:
” I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM THE OUTCAST SHAITAN ” (THE WORD YOU HAVE TO READ IS IN ARABIC AND IT IS TAW’WAZ.)
From a personal experience, dealing with children fighting one another and with family counseling, this prescription has worked beautifully. I encourage that we recite it loudly for at least three times at the time of anger. Allah will send special angels to protect us from the mischievous Shaitan. Remember what Allah said in Surah Fussilat.
(This surah is in the 24th parah Ayat 36 in the holy Qur’ran ) the meaning is below (Ayah 36):
“AND IF AN EVIL WHISPER FROM SHAITAN (SATAN) TRIES TO TURN YOU AWAY (OH MUHAMMAD (Allah bless him with peace) (FROM DOING GOOD ), THEN SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH. VERILY, HE IS THE ALL-HEARER, THE ALL- KNOWER”
So the best person is one who controls himself in anger. When a person is angry he should make wudu (Ablution) and then he should recite the verses from the Holy Qur’ran the anger should have gone away. The person should prey Taw’waz (aeo zo billahi mnashayta nirazam) and then prey ( Ayatul kursi) which is in the Holy Qur’ran . (3rd para 2nd ruku).
Every person male or female should try to recite the Holy Qur’ran everyday because by reciting the Holy Qur’ran it takes away the anger and the heart will become clean.
Anger affects everyone it doesn’t matter if the person is young, old, male, and female. So one should try to control one’s anger. There is a great reward given to the person who controls his anger.
May Allah give eveyone the abilty to practices upon the Qur’ran and the way shown by our Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace).
SAYING OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD (Allah bless him with peace) ABOUT ANGER.
Allah’s Messenger (Allah bless him with peace) Said a Muslim is never allowed to stay angry with his Muslim brother over three day’s , because he who does that, then dies will go to hell ( FIRE ) . (This is reported by Abu Dawood ) (Sahih Al – Jami ) (page 7609).
The messenger of Allah (Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) says about anger:
“Anger is the effect of shaytaan and shaytaan was created from fire. And water extinguishes fire.”
It is narrated in Bukhari that two people were arguing in the presence of Rasulullah (Allah bless him with peace) One of the two became so angry that his face went red and his veins swelled. Rasulullah (Allah bless him with peace) Lifted his face towards that person and said to him that I know a sentence if you were to say it your anger will go away. The sentence is ( taw’wz ). The translation is as follows:
“I SEEK ALLAH’S PROTECTION FROM THE CURSED DEVIL”
THE VIRTUES OF CONTROLLING ONES ANGER.
There are many virtues in Ahadeeth recarding a person who controls his anger. In Tabraani. (A book of Hadeeth ). It is narrated that Rasulullah (Allah bless him with peace) Said : Who ever controls there temper Allah will take away punishment from him and who so ever safe guard’s his tongue Allah will conceal his sins.
In another Hadeeth which is narrated in (Tirmizi and Abu Dawood): Rasulullah (Allah bless him with peace) Who ever controls their temper in a state that if he wanted he could have took revenge. Then On the day of judgement Allah will call him in front of everyone and will give him the choice of picking the Hoor of his choice.
So by controlling your anger Allah will give the choice of picking any Hoor from Paradise (Jannat). But today youngsters have forgotten the world hear after and there are to indulge in this world that we have forgotten the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) so from now on we should change our lifestyle. And we should live our life according to the way shown by our beloved Prophet
Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) because success in this world and the hereafter lies in the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace). May Allah gives us the ability to practice upon this (Aamin ).
THE REMEDY FOR ANGER SHOWN BY OUR PROPHET MUHAMMAD (Allah bless him with peace)
The remedy for anger is that when a person who is angry should control his anger. In the Ahadith there are three way’s shown to control ones Anger.
1) is to say Ta’awwuz
2) is to doWudu (Abulution ) or drink water.
3) is to lie down on the floor
So when a person becomes angry he should perform ablution. Then the person should lie down because when a person is lying he becomes humble because this is the quality of the earth due to it being low and not bursting. This is the opposite to fire which is the origin of shaytaan which results to pride. When a person is lying down he is far from revenge and retaliation then a person who is sitting is further then the one who is standing.
In reality anger is a spark of fire and its flames are always bursting. The cure is that you extinguish.
The fire with water so that the evilness doesn’t spread. i.e. by water it means to make wudu (Ablution).
The person who is angry should make wudu.then the person should recite the verses from the Holy Qur’ran which is (AYAH KURSI ) which is in the (3rd para, 2nd ruku). by reciting the Holy Qur’ran the person with anger it will cool him down because Anger is from shaytaan.
The person who is angry should be left alone to cool down and the above remedy should be practiced .The anger should go away.
In the state of anger one should use the above mentioned remedy so that he doesn’t regret later.
Today I have written about anger and if anger is permissible or not. Anger is only permissible for Islamic reason other then that anger is not permissible. Anger effects everyone weather Young old male or female.Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) has shown us a way to control ones anger so when someone is angry he should follow the three way’s shown in the Hadith.
The three way’s shown in the ahaadith to control you temper and anger.is the following.:
NUMBER ONE : (1) To say ta’awuz.
NUMBER TWO : (2) To do wudu or drink water.
The above is the remedy for anger. Its like a person is ill he takes medicine to get better . Like this when a person is angry he or she should take the medicine givin by our Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him with peace) . May Allah give every person the ability to practice’s upon this . ( Aamin).
Whosoever adopts these three qualities in his life Allah will shower his mercy upon him .
1) Who thanks Allah for all his favour’s.
2) When he has the strength to to forgive he forgives.
3) when he gets Angry he stay’s quite and calms down.
So by looking at the Hadith’s mention above we could see that the effect of being anger is a bad thing the person is deprived of many benefits in this world and the hear after.
Just by controlling your anger Allah will give the person the pleasure of picking a hoor from Jannat. (Paradise)
Anger is a very bad condition it destroy the person Iman (FAITH)
Anger is a cause of temptation and deception of shaytaan so every person should not show
Anger to anyone. There’s more harm in becoming angry and not controlling the anger.
A person control his anger Allah will give him a choice of any Hoor from Jannet (paradise).
This is the reward given by Allah to the person who control his anger so may Allah give everyone the ability to control our anger and save us from this satanic effects.
May Allah forgive our sin’s and give everyone the ability to practice Islam and the straight path. The path shown by our prophet Muhammad.(Allah bless him with peace) .