[Hakim]

How to end Racism

1 minute message - by Imam Shabir Ally

Recent events remind us that racism remains rampant. How can it end? Only understanding and education can end racism.

People must realise that God created all humans from one couple. The entire human race is therefore one large extended family. God says:
"O mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord who created you from a single soul and from its mate; and from the two of them He spread abroad a multitude of men and women" [Al-Qur'an 4:1]

"O mankind! We have created you male and female, and have made you nations and tribes that you may know each other. The noblest of you, in the sight of Allah(1), is the best in conduct" [Al-Qur'an 49:13]

The noblest is the best in conduct. Such persons may belong to any race or country. What really matters is their conduct and behaviour. This is why the prophet Muhammad(p)(2) in a public address said that the Arabs are not superior to the non-Arabs, and one colour is not superior to another. He also said that people should obey their leader even if he is a black person.

Furthermore, we must understand that no race is superior to another. When we see a garden with many different flowers we appreciate the beauty of the entire arrangement. We have nothing against the colour of any flower because each contributes something to the beauty of the garden.In a similar way we may see the world as a garden decorated with people of different colours. Let us appreciate that each variety of people contributes something to the spice of life in this world.

As a result of following these teachings, many people are able to end racism in their thoughts and actions. You can still see racial harmony today in the mosques of cosmopolitan cities. There you will find people of various colours worshipping together, all with equal status before God. Rich or poor, black or white, king or pauper all line up side by side to worship. No special consideration is given to anyone based on colour or social status. In many mosques the leader is black and the followers white. There is no such concept as a "black mosque" or "white mosque." Islam removes such destructive concepts.

Footnotes

1 Allah is the name of God used by Arabic-Speaking Christians and Jews, and by Muslims of every language.

2 May peace, and the blessings of Allah, be on His messengers Muhammad, Jesus, Moses and others.

[Mowlana Vector]

Hakim, excellent post, Bro



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Prophet Muhammad's Last Sermon

All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.

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Allah, the Almighty ordered us to deal in kindness towards these. He said: "Serve Allah and join not any partners with Him, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are of kin, neighbours who  are strangers, the companion by your side, the way fairer and what yourright hand posesses: for Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious" [An Nisa : 36]


More @ Arrogance Against Others & Mistreatment of Animals

[Siham]

Excellent post indeed , Alhamdulilah I am colorblind, but in this world we live in today, many people find it difficult to castaway racism.

Anyways, here's a funny story

Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers.

I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male......good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.

If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better.

If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.


THE RESPONSE:

Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White
Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control.

A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Samuel Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women. And, to flip the scrip, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed.

Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history. It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.

It was the black woman that taught you how to praise your children. It was black women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.

Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for a docile woman. Someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. I guess you are just S.O. L. No offense taken, none given.

Signed,
Black Royalty

[Mowlana Vector]

"Do not treat people with contempt, nor walk insolently on the earth. Allah does not love the arrogant or the self-conceited boaster. Be modest in your bearing and subdue your voice, for the most unpleasant of voices is the braying of the ass." (Holy Qur'an: Luqman 31:18-19)

Source: "The Bounty of Allah" (translated by Aneela Khalid Arshed, 1999)

[Mowlana Vector]

Arrogance and Humility
By: Shaykh Tosun Bayrak al-Jerrahi al-Halveti

Arrogance is a state in which we are convinced that we have the right to be above others. Justified self-admiration without comparing ourselves to others and feeling superior is not the same thing. This is, at worst, vanity. Arrogance is unlawful in Islam. It is considered to be a disgraceful state. The opposite of arrogance is to look at ourselves only with the intention of truly knowing ourselves. This is considered to be a virtue, one expected from a Muslim. Justified or not, whether truly in our hearts we believe that we are superior to others or not, if conceit is exteriorized, manifested, communicated to others by mind or deed, it is a sin. What is worse is when there is no justification for the feeling of superiority. Allah Most High, one of whose attributes is The Proud One, is the only One who is worthy of this name.

The only occasion when the feeling of pride is not a sin is when it is manifested against an aggressive arrogant person or against a tyrannical enemy, when we are waging battle in defense of our religion or country. In fact, to show pride to an arrogant person is considered to be a good deed.

Jabir relates that the Prophet (saws) said, "The only state of pride Allah permits is the one shown in battle or while doing a generous act. . ." The meaning of pride while helping a person in need is the belittling of the generosity while pretending that we are able to do much better.

Modesty, to appear lesser than we are, is commendable. Yet, the exaggeration of humbleness to the extent of appearing abject, is a sin. Miraz ibn Jabal reports that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "Showing excess attachment and appearing abject, reducing oneself to the state of a beggar, does not suit the character of a believer. The only exception is the humbleness of a student towards his teacher, seeking to receive knowledge. . ." Only knowledge is worth begging for, and worth humbling ourselves to receive.

To illustrate the right and wrong way to manifest humility, imagine a totally coarse, ignorant person entering into the company of wise men. If these wise men show excessive respect to the newcomer, stand up to greet him, offer the best place, see him to the door when he is leaving, this is definitely wrong. On the other hand, if they show him kindness so as not to make him feel unwelcome, listen to and answer his questions at the level of his understanding (even if the questions are beneath them) and especially never think of themselves as better than he, doing all they can to make him feel he is their equal, then indeed their behavior is proper.

Another example of unlawful humility in Islam is to beg if we have shelter and food, even for only one day. To give someone a small gift with the hope of receiving a greater good is like begging.

"Allah Most High says, Do no favor, seeking gain." (Surah Al Muddaththir 6)

To go to feasts without being invited is humiliating and a kind of begging. Abdullah ibn Omar reports the Messenger of Allah (saws) as having said, "If one does not accept an invitation he is revolting against Allah and His Prophet. If someone goes to a feast or a wedding without being invited, he has entered their house as a thief and left as a plunderer. . ."

To befriend, visit, and frequent dignitaries, people in power, high government officials, judges, generals or influential rich people, with the hope of obtaining benefit from these relationships, is forbidden humility according to our religion, unless these people possess the means of our receiving what is rightfully ours and we are in real need of it. And when we are in the company of these people, to stay standing, to bow, to show excessive respect in action and speech, is demeaning, and the wrong kind of humility.

To work hard, even far beneath our qualifications, to support our families, to help with the menial chores of our houses, shopping, cooking, cleaning, are commendable signs of true humility. To be ordinary in appearance, to wear inexpensive and worn clothes, to befriend the poor and disadvantaged, to eat simple food and not to throw away leftovers, to not seek reputation-building, self-glorifying jobs, not to consider it beneath you to be a shepherd, a gardener, a porter, carpenter or mason, these are true signs of humility. These kinds of manifestations of humility are worthy of great divine rewards, for they resemble the behavior of prophets and saints. But many people do not know it and think of a life like this as reprehensible. They are the arrogant ones who do not know themselves.

Arrogance becomes more dangerous when it is manifested and directed towards someone. Some are arrogant towards man. They are not any better that the accursed devil, who refused to obey Allah, when He asked all the angels to prostrate to Adam. The devil thought that he was created of fire, while Adam was created of earth, and that fire was superior to earth. He did not know himself and he did not know Adam. Therefore, he was punished and rejected from Allah's Mercy until the end of time.

Some are arrogant toward Allah, like the Pharaoh who said, "I am your exalted lord." Or like Nimrod, who said to the prophet Abraham (as), "Your Lord may be the God of Heavens. I am the lord of the world", and dared to challenge Allah to fight him. Allah drowned the Pharaoh and his armies while they were chasing the prophet Moses (as) and the children of Israel. Nimrod was killed by a mosquito which devoured his brain.

Some are arrogant towards the Prophet of Allah (saws), like Abu Jahl, who said, "Is this who God chose as His messenger? Couldn't He have revealed the Qur'an to a notorious man of Mecca or Medina?"

Allah seals the eyes and ears and hearts of the arrogant from knowing the Truth. He declares in the Holy Qur'an,

"I shall turn away from my revelations those who are unjustly proud in the Earth. Even if they see every sign, they will not believe in it. And if they see the right path to salvation they will not take it. If they see the wrong path to error and sin they will take it. This is because they reject Our messages and are heedless of them."
Sûrah Al-A'raf 146

Abu Hurayra reports that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "Grandeur is my shirt, majesty is my skirt; whoever compares himself to me is arrogant. I throw him to the fire and I do not regret it."

Ibn Mas'ud relates that the Prophet (saws) said, "Whoever has an atom of pride in his heart will not enter Paradise." Then one of his companions asked, "What do you say about someone who likes to dress in fine clothes?" and he answered, "Allah is beautiful and likes that which is beautiful. Arrogance is to deny reality and to consider others beneath oneself."

Reported by Sawban, he (saws) said, "A believer who dies free of debt, treachery and arrogance enters Paradise."

Anas ibn Malik reports that the Prophet (saws) said, "In hell the proud will be locked in coffins of fire and kept there forever."

Abdullah ibn Selam was seen in the market place with a heavy load of wood on his back. Someone said to him, "What makes you do this? Allah has freed you from doing such chores." Ibn Selam answered, "I wished to rid myself of all signs of pride with this as as I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) say that, " The one who has pride in his heart even as little as a mustard seed will not enter paradise."

Abu Hurayra reports that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "There are three kinds of people Allah Most High will not address nor will He forgive on the Last Day of Judgement. They are the adulterers, lying rulers, and arrogant poor."

During his Khalifat, Omar ibn Hattab (ra) was marching upon Damascus with his army. Abu Ubayda ibn Jerrah was with him. They came upon a little lake. Hd. Omar (ra) descended from his camel, took off his shoes, tied them together, and hung them on his shoulder. He took the halter of his camel and together they entered the water. Seeing this in front of the army, Abu Abayda said, "Oh the Commander of the believers, how can you be so humble in front of all your men?" Hd. Omar answered, "Woe to you, Abu Ubayda! If only anyone else other than you thought this way! Thoughts like this will cause the downfall of the Muslims. Don't you see, we were indeed a very lowly people. Allah raised us to honor and greatness through Islam. If we forget who we are and wish other than Islam, which elevated us, the One who raised us, surely will debase us."

Ibn Tirimizi reports that the grandfather of Amr ibn Shuayb heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) say that, "On the Day of Last Judgement, the haughty will be raised as small as ants but in their own countenance. They will be guided by huge hordes of horrors to a dungeon called Bulis. There they will be fed with poisonous human excretion like dirty blood and pus."

Muhammad ibn Zeyyad reports that when Abu Hurayra was appointed the governor of Medina, he used to walk into the marketplace with a load of wood on his back and shout, "Open the way, let the governor pass!" and others would cry "Open the way, let the people see their leader pass!"

Imam Tirimizi relates that he heard Jubayr complain that people thought he was proud. He said, "I ride a donkey, I wear coarse wool clothes of the poor, I milk my goats myself and I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) say, 'Whoever does [those things] is not proud.'"

Seven qualities are considered to be the cause of pride: education, knowledge, religious piety, fame and nobility of one's family and descendents, physical attractiveness, physical strength, wealth, achievement, and the number of ones admirers and followers. In reality, none of these qualities need to be the causes of arrogance. On the contrary, they are positive values which every person strives for. The real cause of arrogance is stupidity, and the inability to comprehend what is offered as knowledge. Yet there is no other medicine but knowledge to cure stupidity.



With permission from: Shaykh Tosun Bayrak al-Jerrahi al-Halveti

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SEE ALSO
The Purification of the Heart from Kibr (Pride)

Achieving Humility (khushoo') In Prayer

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Beyond the Beauty Complex

[shuaib]

He must be a fast talker to have said all that in one minute....

[Rob]

Any attempt to eradicate racism is fine by me. Nice work, Hakim and Mowlana Vector. Excellent articles.

[sodapop]

shuaib, on Jun 22 2005, 12:44 AM, said:

He must be a fast talker to have said all that in one minute....

You probably just need to be a fast reader.

[shuaib]

No.......

[sodapop]

It's a 1 minute message not speech. In any case, it's the content that matters, not the length.

[Mowlana Vector]

sodapop, on Jun 22 2005, 11:15 AM, said:

It's a 1 minute message not speech. In any case, it's the content that matters, not the length.



Exactly!!!



Rob, on Jun 22 2005, 09:58 AM, said:

Any attempt to eradicate racism is fine by me. Nice work, Hakim and Mowlana Vector. Excellent articles.



B)

[shuaib]

nnnnnnnnnn im trying to find a hissing cat emoticon. its quite appropriate.

[sodapop]

This will have to do.

[shuaib]

NOOOOO! /me hisses like a cat at sodapop

[sodapop]

shuaib, on Jun 22 2005, 11:30 AM, said:

NOOOOO! /me hisses like a cat at sodapop

I am sensing some anger.

Anyway, why a cat? Although...There may be a link between human racism and cats, however tenuous.

[shuaib]

Its because a cat hisses.

[Mowlana Vector]

Seriously, can we please stop hijacking this thread

More Cat-a-logy here

[sodapop]

shuaib, on Jun 22 2005, 11:49 AM, said:

Its  because a cat hisses.

I know that. I meant why did you choose a cat in the first place? Why not a tiger? A lion? A bear?

In any case, since you rejected Bad Hair Cat, here's this instead:

Apologies for hijacking the thread.

[shuaib]

Why is the sky blue? Why is grass green? Why is Ishaa four rakat instead of 10,002???? Why dont we walk on our hands instead of feet? Wouldnt that be more fun? How come we cant fly? I mean birds can fly... Maybe if we grew some wings then we could fly. How come we cant grow wings? I mean if we did, then we could fly. That'd be cool.

[Mowlana Vector]

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[Mowlana Vector]

"Do not strut proudly on account of your good deeds. Do not let pride waylay you. When you deem yourself holier than others, know that you have fallen into grave error because in your pride you believed yourself equal to God." (Shk. Abdul Qadir Jillani in Futuhul-Ghaib)

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But always, people when they are under the hegemony or under the control of their egos, they were refusing. That is their egoistic characteristic. Because man – every man – they have ego, nafs. And nafs – [the] first characteristic of the ego is to be proud.

That is the biggest cursing that is carrying on anyone! It is the worst characteristic, and what is easily making curses coming on their head: to be proud! And Allah Almighty never likes for a servant to be proud. You are a servant! A servant! You can’t be proud!

More in Ego - Nafs

[Mowlana Vector]

Racism Must Stop

A black man walks into a cafe early one morning and notices he’s the only black one there as he sat down he noticed a white man sat behind him, the white man said “coloured people aren’t allowed in here” .

The black man replied… “When I was born I was black, when I grew up I was black, when I’m sick I’m black, when I go in the sun I’m black, when I’m cold I’m black, and when I die I’m black.

But you sir…

When you were born you were pink, when you’re sick you’re green, when you stay in the sun you’re red, when you’re cold you turn blue and when you die you turn purple.”

And yet you have the nerve to call me coloured!!!!”

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[Brother In Islam]

Human Rights in Islam

Source:

Islam provides many human rights for the individual. The following are some of these human rights that Islam protects.

The life and property of all citizens in an Islamic state are considered sacred, whether a person is Muslim or not. Islam also protects honor. So, in Islam, insulting others or making fun of them is not allowed. The Prophet Muhammad said: {Truly your blood, your property, and your honor are inviolable.}1

Racism is not allowed in Islam, for the Quran speaks of human equality in the following terms:

O mankind, We have created you from a male and a female and have made you into nations and tribes for you to know one another. Truly, the noblest of you with God is the most pious.2 Truly, God is All-Knowing, All-Aware. (Quran, 49:13)

Islam rejects certain individuals or nations being favored because of their wealth, power, or race. God created human beings as equals who are to be distinguished from each other only on the basis of their faith and piety. The Prophet Muhammad said: {O people! Your God is one and your forefather (Adam) is one. An Arab is not better than a non-Arab and a non-Arab is not better than an Arab, and a red (i.e. white tinged with red) person is not better than a black person and a black person is not better than a red person,3 except in piety.}4

One of the major problems facing mankind today is racism. The developed world can send a man to the moon but cannot stop man from hating and fighting his fellow man. Ever since the days of the Prophet Muhammad , Islam has provided a vivid example of how racism can be ended. The annual pilgrimage (Hajj) to Makkah shows the real Islamic brotherhood of all races and nations, when about two million Muslims from all over the world come to Makkah to perform the pilgrimage.

Islam is a religion of justice. God has said:

Truly God commands you to give back trusts to those to whom they are due, and when you judge between people, to judge with justice.... (Quran, 4:58)

And He has said:

...And act justly. Truly, God loves those who are just. (Quran, 49:9)

We should even be just with those who we hate, as God has said:

...And let not the hatred of others make you avoid justice. Be just: that is nearer to piety.... (Quran, 5:8)

The Prophet Muhammad said: {People, beware of injustice,5 for injustice shall be darkness on the Day of Judgment.}6

And those who have not gotten their rights (i.e. what they have a just claim to) in this life will receive them on the Day of Judgment, as the Prophet said: {On the Day of Judgment, rights will be given to those to whom they are due (and wrongs will be redressed)...}7

Footnotes:

1. Narrated in Saheeh Al-Bukhari, #1739, and Mosnad Ahmad, #2037.

2. A pious person is a believer who abstains from all kinds of sins, performs all good deeds that God commands us to do, and fears and loves God.

3. The colors mentioned in this Prophetic saying are examples. The meaning is that in Islam no one is better than another because of his color, whether it is white, black, red, or any other color.

4. Narrated in Mosnad Ahmad, #22978.

5. i.e. oppressing others, acting unjustly, or doing wrong to others.

6. Narrated in Mosnad Ahmad, #5798, and Saheeh Al-Bukhari, #2447.

7. Narrated in Saheeh Muslim, #2582, and Mosnad Ahmad, #7163

[raffat]

Siham, on Mar 25 2005, 12:40 AM, said:

Excellent post indeed      , Alhamdulilah I am colorblind, but in this world we live in today, many people find it difficult to castaway racism.

Anyways, here's a funny story      

Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers.

I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male......good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.

If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better.

If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.
THE RESPONSE:

Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White
Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control.

A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Samuel Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women. And, to flip the scrip, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed.

Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history. It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.

It was the black woman that taught you how to praise your children. It was black women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.

Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for a docile woman. Someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. I guess you are just S.O. L. No offense taken, none given.

Signed,
Black Royalty

i'm confused .

which one of these two is more racist or are they just as bad as each other.or none of them or just one of them.

the white girl seemed a bit precious but the black guy seemed full of hate.

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